Thursday, April 11, 2013

Why saying "No" is not an easy thing to do?

Hi there ...

This is not a post about programming, sorry about that.

Since I was young, it was always very hard for me to say "no" to others. People could ask me for anything and I feel obligated to say yes and do it. For some reason saying no gives me the feeling of guilt even to this day.

The reason I am writing this is that a friend asked me for a favor. It was an easy thing to do, and it involved lying to others. I could have done it and helped him a lot, and no one would have known. However it was very obvious for me that what he was asking was wrong. I called him later and apologized for not doing what I promised earlier. 

What bothers me is: [1] I should have said NO right away when he asked me. That could made things easier, and [2] why do I feel guilt because of it?

I am not sure why I am writing this. Probably I just need a way to express my thoughts since I feel really bad about it.

Now for the website. I am still busy with work and study right now, more than ever, so I can't answer emails or post updates. Work seems never ending and my research requires lots of efforts.

Thanks for reading this. Take care and have a wonderful day everyone.